Wow, I Can Get Sexual Too

     As I grow older the things that I notice are different between male and females seem to grow and grow. One of those things I have noticed recently is sex. During puberty and my 8th grade sex ed class it was stated how boys may have these "urges" and its perfect normal to act on them aka masturbation. None of this urges were addressed to the females in the room. You saw the same in media/tv shows it always showed boys watching porn and boys jacking off in their room to a Carmen Electra poster. When I hung out with my guy friends they would talk about who they wanted to bang or how they fingered their girlfriend while if I said anything sexual I would get met with a laugh and a stare. It doesn't help that I live in a family where sex is something that is never talked about so I always conditioned to think sex/masturbation was taboo. During puberty I found myself ashamed of the urges and thoughts I was having pushing them down into the basement of my mind. Why is it when a girl is sexual its seen as being a whore while when boys are sexual its totally normal and expected? I hate to break it to you but we think about sex a lot actually.

Until about a few days ago I had never masturbated. I know this is probably tmi but just hear me out. I realized what is the point of not confronting these urges...where they painful to others? Were they unnatural? The answer was No. I read advice columns that made me realize there was nothing to be ashamed of.  I no longer feel like there my vagina is a "no no" zone. It isn't an area I have to be afraid of. 

Another thing that seems to be perfectly normal for men but not for females, at least in societies eyes is sexual thoughts/attraction. Even something as innocent as crushes is an example of this. I have many celebrities on my crush list and if one of them was one TV and I would gush over them I was met with my brothers saying "Get a room! God your are so gross." It wasnt like I was like "oh man I wish I could fuck that guy", I would just be like "Dangggg he is such a cutie, I cant even." Now I ask you to imagine if it was a boy who gushed over a woman he found "hot" would he be met with the same reaction? NO. Why does society make such an effort to smash women's sexuality? Just because we dont get hard everytime we see a boob doesnt mean we dont have urges or get turned on.

So my main point is don't be ashamed of your feelings. Whether you have urges or not. There is nothing wrong with exploring and finding what gets you off. Watch porn! Sexuality/being sexual isn't a boys only club. I wish it wasn't seen as so taboo for a woman be sexual,or shamed.

Noelle on Sexuality

     So. Something has been bothering me lately. Well not really bothering but causing a lot of thought. What is sexuality? No not the exact definition form the dictionary nerd, I mean really what is it? Sometimes to me saying that you only like one gender or type is like saying you only like the blue m&ms. I feel like it’s not really something you can slap a label on though people try to convince themselves otherwise. Now this may be me but I hope it makes sense. I for example haven’t been attracted to a female before. I mean yeah I think Angelina Jolie is hot but I don’t connect with her deeper than that if it makes sense. But someone could change that ya know? I have only dated a guy in 5th grade and that’s all the experience I have had with guys. (we hugged like once and that is about the farthest I’ve gone). It may just be my teenager showing but sexuality is such a confusing statement. I’m curious if others feel the same. I think pansexual seems to be the most accurate term to identify it in my eyes. Where one is gender blind and feels with the heart.